phatbrownfemale:

omg the point of “you” is to be torn between your sympathy and disgust for joe. the reason he’s humanized is so that viewers can gain an understanding of why we collectively victim blame. he’s a nuanced character- he’s not simply pure evil. (i mean yeah he is) BUT i feel like the point is to realize yaaaa he’s what he calls a “hopeless romantic” and “damaged” and nice to a kid but that doesnt mean hes a good person worthy of sympathy. like he can be great with kids but ultimately an insane stalker and murderer. also beck- i fucking hate her as a person but again, social commentary. we blame women when they are literally physically threatened by clearly unhinged and dangerous men. she isnt a good person. in my opinion shes boring and dumb and a user etc BUT that doesnt mean she should be blamed for being a victim nor should she forgive joe bc he “loves” her. this show forces you to examine why we blame and victimize and sympathize with certain people and situations. these characters are extremely human. imperfect, horrible even, but nuanced. not black and white. but the point is to remember that regardless of joes reasoning or becks horribleness, joe is the clear villain.

alonesomes:

something about women crying in bathrooms,
always in a hurry, always the violent swiping
under the eyes, pressing at the puffy red blotches, rushing, getting it out, looking in the mirror and then, like a warrior, going back outside to wherever like nothing ever happened and doing it all again. tell me we’re not brave even when we’re hiding.

heavyweightheart:

my friend said that whenever she has a bad feeling about her body/appearance, she asks herself “who profits off of this emotion?” and i really love how simple and incisive that is

thebronxkingnellz:

yourbigsisnissi:

A part of being an adult is living with regret and not allowing it to consume you. The older you get, the more mistakes you’ve made, opportunities you’ve missed, people you’ve disappointed. And every day you have to remind yourself to be kind and forgiving of yourself. You accept and love the you from the past and understand that it’s all a part of the process. Then you move on and live your best life, knowing now as old as you feel today, you’ll never be this young again.

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onlinecounsellingcollege:

“Sometimes there is no next time, no timeouts, and no second chance. Sometimes it’s now or never.”

— Alan Bennett

peachysuggest:

choose kindness even when others have not been kind to you

colds:

dont ignore red flags even if you really love someone and want to believe in them

lovelysuggestions:

You have survived every moment of your life, even the ones you swore you wouldn’t. This time is no different; you will last.